My brother is still babied at 20 years old?

Sadly, I've seen this type of situation before. I'm nearly in the middle of it, except this person is 18 and considered "special", but still...it breaks my heart to see that all he does is eat the food in the house, play video games, etc. I know how it is and it is troubling, especially when the mother won't even listen and do what is best. I'm living in this situation, too, and I know it's tough. People like that need to be taught life skills. If he is special then perhaps they need to have that proven by a doctor, a psychologist, or psychiatrist. If they are special then you need to push them because once they hit around 25, it takes a lot more work to try to teach them anything. I mean, it's possible, but while they're even 20 years old, they can still learn. They have the capability with patience and time. They need to be given simple responsibilities, or a schedule to follow so they can make a checklist of what they've done during the day. If he isn't special or slow, they should still take measures to make sure he knows life skills like earning a living, getting a real job, how to dress for a job interview, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, taking care of theirselves, budgeting, etc. If you could try to help, or convince your mother that he needs a little shove out of the nest soon and need to prepare him for it then try your best. I know some mothers won't listen and just stop because they don't want their baby to move away from home (sadly, this happens far too often). If he is special and she's not doing a thing to help him then they might as well declare disability, or get a respite (sp?) care provider that will teach life skills that will help them in life. I assume he may not get out a lot, and perhaps you could take him out one day for dinner, or take him to the movies, or something that is public, talk to him, and maybe offer to teach him these life skills so he can move and live on his own. It is one of my serious pet peeves when mothers baby their children even after 18 are still being treated as babies and possibly becoming overweight, and definitely becoming lazy. Sometimes the mothers don't even listen, but they need to hear the truth anyway. Some mother's block it out of their minds and say, "You're wrong." or, "You're crazy." But you at least need to try your best. If you've tried your best then that's what you can do. I know it's rough, and I don't even know of an answer on what to do since nothing in my situation has worked, either. Although, I know I've done what I can even though it is still incredibly difficult to see and it is heart-breaking. Even though in my heart I can get by and convince myself that I tried my best, and pray that someday before it's too late the mom will realize she can't baby her adult son the rest of her life. I wish you the best of luck, I know it's difficult. Hang in there!